Be Happy to Get Older

I met Hope, my very good old college classmate who’s far away in Holland online tonight.

We haven’t talked like this for a long time, thanks to the hi-tech nowadays. Just randomly talked about everything, what’s up here in Taipei and Holland both sides. When we talked about one old school classmate got married and another old classmate’s old story came along. I told Hope we broke up for years and she was surprised as all the other old friends since her and I were the best friends ever for known in the class. I don’t wanna explain to much about the details of the story and all I said is “I finally learn to choose friends after being hurt many times, I am just so afraid to get hurt again.” I have this realization all thanks to Anita.

Hope said she was shame that she seldom contact old classmates in Taiwan. I replied “Of course you can’t coz you’re in Holland, don’t blame that on yourself.” But she answered “No, coz I know not everyone could be your friend and not everyone you can talk through things and trustable.” What an answer! Just the right answer to my decision now! I told her “I should learn it from you coz I never know how to protect myself and always trust in people and now there are scars all over my body everywhere and now I learn!” Hope said she’s luckily she has never been hurt badly as I have. She realized it early so she doesn’t get hurt. I am almost 30 and now I learn it. I know how to choose friends and evaluate friends into different levels so I would not trust everyone with the same faith which helps me to avoid getting hurt in some way somehow. It’s like exams to friends to test if they really have good intentions to be true friends, you have to exam it again and again all the time and renew the records. And it really takes time, coz trust is so hard to build up but it could be ruined in any second. It’s like the nails on the fence even you remove all of them, the marks stay there still forever.

I told Hope recently I suddenly realized how angry I am that I really waste 2 years on this unworthy man. I told Amber too and she answered “but you have to admit not because of him, you would not learn so much and change instantly instead.” Yes, she is absolutely right. Hope answered me that “but the same time you can’t deny that you had a great time too.” She explained “There is a Dutch slang called ‘Be Happy to Get Older’, now I tend to keep that way.” Yes, I should really learn from Hope, we all have to learn to think positive, forget the unhappy things for life goes on. Just let go of yourself and be happy to get older!

Tonight, I do learn…